I was propelled into a spiral of physical and emotional suffering. I couldn’t find the strength to do even the simplest of my daily tasks and I felt like there was no light at the end of the tunnel.
The single worst thing was the lack of trust I was now feeling. The one person I trusted more than all others was now the one person I thought I could never trust again.
My marriage wasn’t the only relationship Doug’s affair affected. I started to not only second-guess myself, but also my friends and family. I couldn’t trust myself, much less other people.
I became consumed with wondering if our 25 year marriage was a lie.
My destructive thought process was toxic and was not only slowly eating away at myself, but my loved ones as well. Months later, I came to the realization that I needed to learn to trust again – I didn’t regret that decision.
When we said our wedding vows a quarter of a century earlier, I never would have thought this would happen. We’d been through good times and bad times, but this was truly our darkest time.
I began to wonder if trusting again would open new doors in our marriage and allow us a chance to start over.
I began doing research on trust and began planning a strategy for myself. Once I gained the strength inside to trust myself and others, I started to open up to friends and family members for emotional support.
It took a while, but I also began looking to Doug again for support as well after making some demands of him.
We began reaching out to other couples on our Emotional Affair Journey blog and discovered that we weren’t alone – hundreds of other couples were fighting the very same battles that we were.
We loved hearing heartfelt stories of renewed trust and hope and decided to write a book in hopes of helping hundreds more couples find the light in the end of their tunnels as well.
Right now, you feel like there is no hope – like you are not as strong as other people who have moved on from their loved one’s affair. I’m here to tell you that it is possible to have that trust back… and your relationship will be stronger than you ever thought possible.
How Can Trust Be Regained After Such A Betrayal?
